If you’ve tried out a big online dating website like idateasia.com, then you’ve seen that there really are some hot, quality women on there. However, just like out in the real world, it can be hard to figure out what to say to a woman to get an interaction with her going on the right foot.

Today I’m going to teach you an easy way to strike up a conversation with a woman online in 4 easy steps:

1) Don’t ’wink’ at her.

Match.com has ’winks’, Yahoo personals has ’icebreakers’, Facebook has ’pokes’ and you shouldn’t mess with any of them! These are all ways to show interest in a person without needing to write an email, or put any effort in whatsoever. These things make you look lazy and scared. Not exactly attractive traits for a man...

Attractive women can get literally hundreds of pokes and winks in the course of a week, almost all of which are completely ignored. So instead of lazy and scared, send an email that is ballsy and unique.

2) Don’t do mass e-mailings.

The first time I thought of doing this it seemed like a pretty good idea... Write one witty email, mail it to a hundred different girls and see how many nibbles you get. The only problem with this theory is that it assumes your profile and your emails are good enough to hook and reel in quality women. If they were that good, then you would be getting a 70-80% response rate like I get.

Also the kind of e-mails that women strongly respond to are HIGHLY PERSONALIZED, not generic emails based on cut and paste templates.

3) Find something interesting in her profile.

Women like it when a guy takes the time to read her profile. This shows them that you are interested in them specifically and aren’t just some desperate dude looking for sex. So scan her profile for something that interests you like maybe she brews her own beer... So you say something about a beer you love, it’s that easy.

4) Don’t act like you like her a lot and think she is so hot.

If you are emailing a woman on a dating site, then it’s OBVIOUS that you like her. Don’t mention it outright, if you do you’ll look a little unstable. That’s wussyish, not very smooth. It’s like saying "I want to kiss you" before you kiss her and looking for her approval... not attractive.

Do you ever notice how in romantic movies the guy never goes "Oh I like you so much, you’re so pretty, we have so much in common etc..." when he first meets the girl? You’ve got to leave it unsaid, let that sexual tension rise up and get her all hot and bothered.

Trust me, she’ll be way more excited about meeting you if you haven’t been kissing her rear in your emails.

A first date is one of the most nerve-wracking aspects of dating at any age. If you are 50+ and just starting to date again after a few years or a few decades, however, the uncertainty about where to go, what to wear, and what to talk about can seem almost insurmountable.Before the first date, you wonder whether your date will like you, whether you’ll like him or her, and how much dating etiquette has changed since the last time you were out there.

While there are no absolutes when it comes to senior dating, there are a few tried and true strategies that may help calm your nerves and increase your chances for a successful first date:

• One purpose of every first date is to decide whether you want a second one. With that in mind, plan a first date that encourages conversation and helps you get to know each other, and avoid activities like movies and plays that leave you sitting silently in the dark.


• Tailor your first date to include a common interest, hobby, or shared value, which may help you establish an immediate connection around something that has meaning for both of you.


• If you plan to have a meal on your first date, make it lunch and combine it with some fun activity so you have more things to talk about while you eat. Dinner sometimes implies more intimacy than you may be ready for on a first date, and having the whole date depend on two near-strangers sitting across from each other and making conversation can create a lot of pressure.


• If the whole idea of senior dating makes you nervous, consider making your first date a group date with friends, or participating in a group activity such as a wine tasting or charity auction.



• Be smart, be safe, and have an exit strategy. On most first dates you're going out with someone you don't know well, so stick to public places and tell someone you trust who you are meeting and where you will be. If you start to feel uneasy about the person you are with, then leave.


• Don't put all your eggs in this first date basket. If the person doesn't turn out to be Prince (or Princess) Charming, so what? You met a new person, practiced your conversation skills, and learned more about what you want (and don't want) in a partner.

Whether you're 16 or 65, the best way to enjoy a first date is to keep an open mind, focus on the things you have in common, and make your primary goal to simply have a good time.

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